It started out as: Momentum... Then after I had my baby, I felt like I stopped doing things to make any progress for myself and I felt like I got stuck halfway through the year. So, I ended up changing my word to Move to get myself going again. Move
mo͞ov/
I Dare You To Move!
I Like To Move It!
This doesn't have the actual word move in it, but it makes me want to do something.
I chose bold as my word for 2016, because I have worked on believing in myself and my abilities this past year in 2015. I have gotten a lot better at believing that I can do it. However, I haven't taken a lot of bold action on my goals like I would like. I have taken baby steps trying to build my confidence up in myself.
Toward the end of 2015, I started to get a little bolder. I chose bold as my word for this year because I want to match my thoughts and learning with bold action. I know I can accomplish great things if I put my mind to it and carve out the time to do it.
As with this class I am taking called, "Your Next Bold Move," I am going to be more bold this year and less timid and shy at going for my big goals and dreams. I believe can make a difference even with all the negative voices in my head telling me to go back to "safety" of a "comfortable" life. I don't want a comfortable life. I want an adventurous life. I'm ready to take this next step and be bold! Bring it on 2016! I'm ready!
DECIDE TO ACT - Motivational Video
Life Changing Motivational Video: How to take massive action and get massive results
Tony Robbins MASSIVE ACTION!
Taylor Swift - Change
CHANGE YOUR MIND - Motivational video
TEDxMiddlebury - Ernie Parizeau - Fortune Favors the Bold
WALK THE MOON - Shut Up and Dance
Take Action - Motivational Video
Fortune Favors The Bold
Shia LaBeouf "Just Do It" Motivational Speech (Original Video)
Believe [bih-leev] verb (used without object), believed, believing.
1. to have confidence in the truth, the existence, or the reliability of something, although without absolute proof that one is right in doing so: Only if one believes in something can one act purposefully.
verb (used with object), believed, believing.
2. to have confidence or faith in the truth of (a positive assertion, story, etc.); give credence to. 3. to have confidence in the assertions of (a person). 4. to have a conviction that (a person or thing) is, has been, or will be engaged in a given action or involved in a given situation: The fugitive is believed to be headed for the Mexican boarder. 5. to suppose or assume; understand (usually followed by a noun clause): I believe that he has left town. Verb phrases6. believe in, a. to be persuaded of the truth or existence of: to believe in Zoroastrianism; to believe in ghosts. b. to have faith in the reliability, honesty, benevolence, etc., of: I can help only if you believe in me. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/believe
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF - Motivational Video (ft. Jaret Grossman & Eric Thomas)
This year I want to believe in myself, others and God. I have been working on increasing my personal value so that I feel like I can claim and own that I am a valuable contributing member of society. I have a lot of degrees and personal experiences to back myself up, but for some reason I have always felt somewhat inadequate. For the past two years I have had several people, including some family members, who basically told me that I'm "failing at life" and they didn't believe in me anymore. I don't know if that has ever happened to you, but it hurt like a knife in my back. These people who have loved and supported me for most of my life up to this point were basically making me feel like I wasn't worth anything. It's kind of ironic to me to go into an emotionally abusive environment like that after coming out of one from going through being divorced. I think part of me started to believe what they were saying. It caused my already depression and self worth to go down even deeper than it already was. To put it simply, I was having suicidal thoughts when I was in my marriage and I was going through my divorce. That's how low I was and how depressed I was. Once I left, which was not an easy task in and of itself, I began working at getting better and liking myself again because I hated myself. I loathed everything about myself. I hated how I looked. I hated that being on birth control had made me gain weight. I hated my stomach. I hated my butt. I hated my clothes. I hated looking at myself in the mirror. I hated that I wasn't good enough. I hated that I wasn't smart enough. I hated that I married my ex in the first place. I hated that I didn't leave sooner. I hated that I gave into fear and stayed longer than I should have. I hated that I couldn't tell people what was really happening. I hated everything and I didn't feel like there was any point to even living anymore. My "happily ever after" marriage was gone. My new family that had been created through that marriage fell apart and was gone. My friends were all gone. I had nothing. At least that's what it felt like. Sure I had stuff, material things. I left a lot more than I took, but what really counts, the relationships, I didn't feel like I had anyone to turn to but a few close people, and even they didn't seem to really believe in me. Once I got back to liking myself, I wanted to love myself again. I didn't feel like I belonged anywhere. I felt like I was in this land of limbo. I grew up with a worldview that family is everything. Yet, I didn't feel like anyone wanted me. If your own family doesn't want you who are you supposed to turn to in your time of need? As I begin the new year, I want to get rid of the negative things, ideas, and people who don't believe in me in my life. I want to focus on the positive good things, ideas, and people in my life. With family you are "stuck with them" no matter what, but you don't have to listen to them to still love them. If they are being negative around you and trying to bring you down, try not to spend as much time with them. You don't need that kind of negative influence surrounding you all the time. I have come to believe in myself again. My abilities. My strengths. Even my weaknesses can become stronger with owning them and believing in myself. I can make a difference by changing my life and helping others to change theirs. I am not the same person that I was yesterday, a week ago, a month ago, or even a year ago. I am always striving to learn more, become better, and to be more. I am working on writing a book. That is one of my goals for this year. I have to get it out. It's inside of me just waiting to be shared. I can't hold it in anymore.
Top Ten Reasons to Establish Written Goals for Your Life
10. Written goals strengthen your character by promoting a long-term perspective.
9. Written goals allow you to lead your life as opposed to simply managing it.
8. Written goals provide intermal, and consistent motivation.
7. Written goals help you stay focused - to concentrate on what's most important.
6. Written goals enhance your decision-making ability.
5. Written goals simultaneously require and build self confidence.
4. Written goals help you create the future in advance.
3. Written goals help you control changes, to adjust your sails, to work with the wind - rather than against it.
2. Written goals heighten your awareness of opportunities that are consistent with your goals.
1. The most important benefit of setting effective goals, is the person you become as a result of the pursuit.
7 Reasons People Don't Set Goals
1. They have not yet accepted personal responsibility for their lives.
2. They fear criticism.
3. They don't know how.
4. They don't realize the importance of goals.
5. The curse of early success.
6. Fear of failure.
7. Fear of success.
Highly Effective Goals Are:
1. Written.
2. Stated positively.
3. Time-Bound. (I will.....by December 31, 2015 at 5pm.)
4. Challenging and reasonable.
5. Consistent with your ambition and desires.
6. Specific and measurable.
7. Thoroughly planned.
8. Tracked. (Chart, graph, track online, fill in the bubble, calendar, etc.) Whatever you do, you can see your success along the way.
9. Performance goals, not outcome goals. (Base your goals on personal performance which you can control, not that someone else can control the outcome. Example: Your goal is to get married in the next year. This isn't the best goal because the person you ask may say no and that would lead to you not succeeding with your goal. You could make a goal to date a lot of people in the next year and go from there.)
The Goal Setting Workshop
Step #1: Brainstorm your dreams/Ideal lifestyle (no limitations, write 50-150+ goals to cover the next 25-30 years of your life)
Step #2: Prioritize (choose 5 goals to focus on for the next year).
Step #3: Convince yourself (what are tangible/intangible rewards of accomplishing your goals?).
Step #4: Plan on paper (what has to happen for you to accomplish your goals? Be specific. This should take awhile. Write down everything you can think of.)
Step #5: List available resources.
Step #6: List potential obstacles.
Step #7: Identify ways to overcome obstacles.
Tips for Success
1. Review your written goals regularly.
2. Get a mentor for important goals. (get direction, advice, ideas, motivation, etc.)
3. Be accountable to someone- tell someone about your goal and deadlines.
4. Be balanced- set goals in several areas. (spiritual, physical, financial, career, family, recreation, travel, community service, education)
5. Create a "triumphs" journal. (create a list of things you have accomplished in the past. This helps you realize that, "I can do hard things.")
6. "Visualize" your goal as already accomplished. (screen saver, pictures, goals book, etc.)
Resources:
"Success is not an Accident" by Tommy Newberry
"The Success Principles" by Jack Canfield
www.joesgoals.com (website to track goals, habits, provides reports, etc.)
www.maintainfit.com (website to track running, swimming, hiking, biking, and walking)
This is not where I originally got this idea from. I had seen a clip from Studio 5 about bloggers making things with their word for the year. Since I can't find that post/clip, I found this one to explain it a little more in case you want to try this yourself this year.
I was looking and trying to find the post that I had written for my word that I chose last year, and I have no idea where it went. So, I guess I will just start over here for this year when I choose my new word for the year.
As I reflect over this past year, 2013 has been one of the hardest years of my life. I made some life-altering decisions and choices that I, for one, never thought I would ever have to end up making. These decisions turned my world, as I had known it, upside down.
When you get knocked down you have two choices:
First, you can stay there. Which, in the past few years, I had stayed down several times after getting knocked down.
Second, you can make the decision to get back up with a fighting determination/spirit and get back in the game. This year, that is exactly what I did. I was not going to stand for it anymore. It wasn't by any means easy. I was so drained mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and even physically.
I had not realized how hard I had been fighting to get back up until I finally made that decision and went with it. I felt in my gut like it was the right decision to make. I felt peace after I made it, and even though I know some people would be hurting as I had in the past, the process of making that decision was freeing.
My word that I had chosen to make a new years resolution for 2013, was invest. I feel like I did just that.
I invested my time into trying to make my marriage work one last time.
I invested my time into trying to build closer relationships with the people I was surrounded with.
I invested my time and effort into putting my best effort into my schoolwork after getting told that I wasn't good enough to continue. I was going to show them that I was and that they didn't make a mistake on letting me try for my dream once again. I wanted to show them, and more importantly, I wanted to show myself that I was worth it and I could do anything that I set my mind to doing.
I invested in myself for listening to the answer that I got to leave. Parts of me were fighting it because I was scared of being alone for the rest of my life and I didn't know what the unknown of the future would hold. I hated that I would be hurting people because that is the last thing that I wanted to do, but I had to have faith and trust that my Heavenly Father knew what was best for me as hard as it was to leave. Once I made that decision I felt peace and comfort that I had done the right thing. I felt sadness that I knew I would be hurting my husband and stepson by leaving, but I knew in my heart that I had to move on with the answer that God had finally given me after months of praying, pondering, blessings, and getting counsel from others.
I invested in the last of that relationship by leaving as much as I could and taking only what I would need or had owned previously to being married. It was so hard leaving some of that stuff, including half of the money since I knew that could have really helped me, but I wanted to be as fair and as just as I could. I knew how much they would be hurting without me to run the whole show like I had for the past four years, but I had to go. I showed as much compassion as I could by leaving birthday presents for my stepson that I was saving for him instead of returning them. I even helped to pack and do some of their dishes before my final goodbye. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It was probably the hardest decision I have ever faced up to this point in my life, and I never want to have to do that again.
I invested in myself by going to counseling and healing from the past.
I invested my money into starting a Mary Kay business and making new friends.
I invested my time, talents, and money into studying, reading, producing work/lesson plans, and attending my classes.
I invested my time, talents, and money into teaching a first grade class every Monday and Tuesday.
I invested in my spirit by attending an institute class each week.
I invested in my family by spending time with them even when there were times I didn't want to because they would tease me or fight with me about one thing or another.
I invested in my love life by taking that first step of allowing a good friendship to turn into something more once I was free and emotionally ready to start over. My new boyfriend has really been an answer to my prayers. He is so kind and understanding taking things very slowly and one step at a time. He was a friend and support to me first in my hard times. He didn't push me and has been a spiritual as well as emotional support along my journey. I don't know how I could have gotten through without him.
All in all, this has been quite an eventful year, especially with my word that I chose. I never thought I would see the word I chose have such an impact over the year, but it really did. I was more focused on investing my time and talents, but I ended up investing some money as well. I am ready for 2014. Bring it on!
